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Today in our morning meet at MULTIDOTS, when we done with the prayer and general updates, I thought to discuss on a topic that was dancing on my mind since couple of days.

In our life, sometimes ( actually many times ) we need to face something for which we never wished and expected. When you desired, dreamed or wished for someone or something and you suddenly realize it is not going to be true, it hurts a lot.  Yes, when you will be in love with some one, I know you might have many emotional dreams attached with that, each dream has a beautiful imagination of dreamy life.  But its painful when you realize its not going to be happen.You did whatever possible to make it possible but still at the end you are alone with your dry dreams. Its good to dream but we should not always expect to be it true.

Well, this is not only in love, everyone has their own set of problems, issues and situations. It was not on our hand to correct that situation or to make it favorable. Whatever happened it was happened and only thing you can do is either suffer and spoil your life, days and happiness for the sake of what happens with you or let time spend everything will be alright.  Because “Time is a big healer“.

Yes, Time !  Whenever something wrong or unexpected happens with you just try to remember and find the similar worst situation from your past life and imagine how time heal those wounds. Of course, you might had faced many painful moments, you might have blamed someone/something for all that disaster but just try to think today and now, was it really painful or try to find out what good happens after you faced such sick moments? I am sure you might have something better and good with respect to all bad you had to suffer and face.

So, I asked everyone in my team to share their experience of such moments. Everyone shared their unforgettable ( of course painful too ) moments and also shared what good brought that in their life.  It was a great inspiring discussion for us. I am thankful to everyone for sharing their personal, general and true experience of dam moment.

“Time” is money for someone, besides that its a big healer too.  Many thanks to “TIME“  for healing my wounds and will look forward to be with me and help me to come out of all the painful moments and situations.

Do you want share you thoughts  ideas or experience on this? I would love to hear and answer.

Today I was roaming on web for finding some solution to implement url_rewriting under IIS server. Suddenly , I found a very good video on a website. A small but very good play. I recommend to watch it. My kudos to TheWayToHappiness.org

In our last TLT (TL’s Training) we had a nice discussion on Responsibility. Nirav Mehta said that Power comes from Responsibility. Now it was my turn to share this thought in my team. As a part of my preparation for the TLT which I was going to take I found a nice article on Responsibility by Nisandeh Neta. So I decided to do this exercise in my TLT. Here is something which we did.

• Everyone was organized in 2×3 matrix in their chair.
• First Colomn : Twinke,Pratik,Hitesh
• Second Coloumn : Jignesh, Malay, Sanjay, Kushan.
• I asked everyone to close their eyes and to listen what I say and put themselves in my words.
• I asked them to experience a journey in a bus. I was also asking them to experience the things which happens in this bus.
• First they had nominated someone to drive their bus.
• Then they were feeling what sort of things went wrong while they were siting in last row and choose not to drive.
• Then I asked them to take driver’s sit and feel that steering wheel of the bus is on their own hands. Things had been changed now.
• They felt freedom and power on their hand.
• That’s all responsibility comes with.

Summery of the Article :

• Life is a bus.
• Bus has a destination plate written but we hardly care to read it.
• We generally nominate some one experienced to drive our bus. It may be your father, mother, legal adviser, etc.
• During this journey we sit last and wasting our time in useless things.
• Some feel bored, some fall sleep, some feel emptiness.
• Everything in the bus will be of the choice of driver: destination, ways, musics.
• Now you are taking the steering wheel in your own hands.
• When you sit in front you will see road ahead of you,everything is fresh, new and exciting.
• You can choose someone experienced and one you like to navigate the way but ultimate decision should be yours.
• Destination is the only excuse for the journey so enjoy the ride.
• In the plate of the destination of this bus was written “Freedom“.

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Feedback after this exercise :

Kushan : He said we should set some good example for our spouse and we can do it only if we take responsibility.

Malay : I will drive my own bus with lots of power and freedom.

Jignesh : Will take advices from the family and friends but final decision will be mine.

Pratik : In initial stage we should let our father and mother to drive our life and once we get onfidence we should humbley and smoothly take steering.

Twinkle : Nice experience. Our decision may affect many other peoples like husband, father, mother, brother, mother-in-law, friends but the most it affects is you so take steering on your hands and select the correct path.

Sanjay : Always choose someone to navigate the way.

Hitesh : We already drive our life by our own but we never feel that power and responsibilty. So feel it and enjoy the life.

Anil : Don’t blame on anyone for anything happens with you. If you want power and want to feel the freedom take the responsility and set the examples.

We have a very good training session at magnet. We call it TLT ( TL’s Training ). This training is provided by our chief mentor Nirav Mehta. So we have been trained since 3 months on every thursday of the week. Now its our turn to share this knowledge. So I have decided to give this training to Maheswar, Sanjay and Mihir ( 3 muscitiers of magnet ) .

As part of this training session We spoke on “Effective Listening” on Firday 13 March 2009.

I have listed notes of this session hope it will be usefull to you.

Brief Theory of communication
- Expressing wants, feelings, thoughts, opinions half communication
- Other half listening and understanding

Source of difficulty by speakers
- voice volume too slow.
- too complex message
- Getting lost & forgetting the purpose of the communication.
- Body language contradicting.
- Paying too much attention for receiver.
- Using unique method

Source of difficulty by listener
- Being preoccupied and not listening.
- Paying too much interest on what I will say.
- Listening to our own personal beliefs.
- Not asking for clarification when we don’t understand.

Three Basic listening modes
- Combative Listening.
- Attentive Listening.
- Reflective Listening.

Level of Listening
1. Account of the facts.
2. Thoughts and beliefs.
3. Feelings and emotions.
4. Wants, needs or motivation.
5. Hopes and expectations.

Different Situations of listing

You’re lost, and you ask a stranger for directions.
Your child comes to you crying.
You are in trouble and someone offers to help.
Your spouse is being affectionate and playful.
Opposing council is cross-examining you in court.

Tips of active listening
- Don’t respond to just meaning of the words.
- find the feeling and intent behind that.
- respond when you understood.
- active listening is best response.
- use eye contact and listening body language.
- Don’t be judgmental.

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